For all you detail guys that want to succeed at sharepoint architecture, know this. Of course no amount of planning and monitoring can prevent Mr. Murphy from rearing his ugly head. But this will get you close.
Capacity management and sizing overview for SharePoint Server 2010
http://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/library/ff758647.aspx
Capacity planning for SharePoint Server 2010
http://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/library/ff758645.aspx
Performance testing for SharePoint Server 2010
http://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/library/ff758659.aspx
Monitoring and maintaining SharePoint Server 2010
http://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/library/ff758658.aspx
This one is invariably too useful:
SharePoint Server 2010 capacity management: Software boundaries and limits
http://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/library/cc262787.aspx
TOPOLOGIES FOR SHAREPOINT 2010 (GREAT VISIO STUFF)
Hardware and software requirements (SharePoint Server 2010)
http://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/library/cc262485.aspx
Performance and capacity test results and recommendations (SharePoint Server 2010)
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